Parenting

I had a talk with a friend yesterday about being a parent. Now understand that I was never the custodial parent, but it wasn't because I didn't want to be. My friend Betsy and I were talking and out of nowhere her daughter (whom I think is about 4 or 5) did something. Betsy then started to tell her daughter to stop. This went on for about 2 minutes, at this point Betsy got fed up and did something to her daughter which caused her daughter to start crying. At this moment Betsy started apologizing to her daughter and saying that mommy loves her? it was at this point that I started laughing uncontrollably, because the little girl has a hard time listening to Betsy whenever she tells her to do something.



Betsy told me that it is her fathers job to be the bad guy and she is "the sugar". Now this caused by hair to stand on end. I asked her why would she do that? to sit there and tell her daughter that she is going to tell her father every time she does something wrong. She goes so far as to call him and let him talk to the little girl on the spot. I think this is a sad situation. As you undoubtedly know I have no problem giving my opinions whether solicited or not. So I ask Betsy what do you plan on doing when your daughter gets older and she does not respect you? She asked me what do I mean? I said your daughter doesn't listen to you now and the way you handle that is by letting her father set her straight. In my opinion all you are doing is reinforcing the behavior that she is exhibiting. By doing this you are ensuring that she will obey her father but pay you no mind what so ever.

I know now a days you can not say anything to people about the way they chose to raise their children. Some of this is due to the nosy ass do-gooders who have outlawed corporal punishment. The idiots who thought of the time out B.S. So today less than 20 years later we have kids who do not respect anyone. We have kids who are cussing their parents out and even going as far as fighting with their parents. *sigh* See what has come from sparing the rod. People it is time to return to traditional values. It is time to realize that your angel is anything but and needs to have their a$$es beat. There is a certain calmness that comes from a good whipping. member dem days.



I just wanted to vent. have a good day.