I have spoken to several sisters here lately who seem to think that Black Women are not revered in todays society. Well now as a lover and appreciator of Black Women let me address this topic in the public forum.
As a child growing up in the last century I had an unusual upbringing. As I look around these days it seems almost alien and it would explain why women today feel the way they do. I grew up surrounded by strong black women and being the youngest in the family at the time, I was always being watched over by women, grandmother, mother, aunts, cousins, neighbors. I grew to respect and love all of the women in my life. And seeing as how I grew up in a predominately black neighborhood all I knew where black women. Growing up in an environment where I had great and beautiful black women to look up to like Angela Davis, Elaine Brown, and Pam Grier just to name a few. Our black women where large in stature. It is because of these types of women that to this day my eyes are fixed on the prize and do not stray.
Today Black women seem to feel as if they are not the "in thing" well let me tell you this, you have never gone out of style. Women of the world long to be you and do all they can to impersonate you. Just look around I am sure you have seen or even know someone who has had collagen implants in their lips, or had their tush lifted to give it a fuller look. And please do not forget about the hundreds of hours spent in the Tanning salon just to get what you where born with. This is flattery at it highest point.
The Irony here lies in the fact that Black women do all they can to look white, whereas White women do all they can to gain the features of a Black woman. I am sure we can all recall the J-lo incident whereas jenny made her name not on her talent but on her backing. Then as soon as she got into the White public eye her ass became too big and she was ashamed of it. But wait that is why she became famous, honestly no one thought it was her talent. The unfortunate thing is as men all we can do is sit here and watch because if we say anything about the issue we are sure to catch a supreme cursing out. But Sisters take heed that there are plenty of black MEN, and I use the word MEN with great care because every male is not a man, out here who love and adore you. You just have to take off the armor and allow yourself to see and feel the love that is radiating out here. Not all men are dogs or have ulterior motives, some just love Black women and want nothing more than to find one that they can call their own.
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Well said...but most of it is bullshit. Men love black women alright. Its that love that has given such high stats as 60% of the 'known' AIDS cases to heterosexual black women. Same love again that has us, the nurturer and producers of nations, out here stuggling to raising black children by oursleves when that is not what God intended. Single black mother is the norm...
We no longer have the sense of unity and the 'village' to help us. Such vulnerablity has opened the window for genocide. When I look at the varieties of black women and the things we face personally, professionally, and spiritually, I can only see and hear lonely, hurt, aggressive, church going women who have no sense of direction; stripping her gold. What's even more devistating is the new epidemics that are striking our kids. 70% of our young men ages 15 to 37 will serve jail time. 70%!! Not to mention, naturally built in the good places, young black girls are being hit w/ eating disorders, pregnancies at alarming ages, and self hate. There is no identity, only a handful of role models and no real black leaders. It is overwhelming and suffocating to be so powerless...Massa did his job well...
Keeping the above info in mind, to GENERALIZE (cannot be applied 100%), our men who beat these odds tend to be either stuck on themselves due to knowledge of being a comodity, in a relationship w/ any other race of woman but a black one, gay, married (and cheating) or just not meeting the standards we were taught to seek out. It's so bad now that you see sistas 'keeping' a man just to say she has one, like it's something to be proud of. She would prefer to take subpar just to ease the loneliness. It's pitifull and sad to watch. I like to think that I am pretty well rounded/grounded and even I doubt that I will not die old and alone.
Seriously ask any sista about our status in America, and she will tell you that we are not 'in' and a white man doesn't look so bad after all no matter what our mama's said about bringing one home.
I appreciate the effort and love that you still have, but what we need now is solutions to the genocide created more than what 300 yrs ago? Fix our people and then we can be real queens again. My 5 cents...
I must say that I can not argue with the numbers, but to say that most of it is Bullshit is far from the truth. I can not speak for an entire gender/race, but what I can speak on is the idea that I do not by any means believe that I am the only black 'Man' who feels this way. Yes there are a lot of problems within our race many self inflicted and others socially programmed. Most of us know this and understand why it has happened, but this is an issue that both sides must come together on and try to resolve. Yes the Aids rates in the black community among women are the highest in the world but that is by design. I for one do not think that Aids just popped up and targeted a race. If you ask me this is just like the Native Americans contracting small pox from infected blankets. But that is another conversation all together. And even closer to home is the outrageous number of Young black men who find themselves in Prison yet another design of our society. These things can not be talked around or disputed but I still believe that Black Women are in and in my case revered for who and what they are, don't get me wrong there are some shady sisters out here who add to the problem. But those are the ones just as the Men who are shady that keep us from seeing the whole picture. I must say that my son was raised by his mother without me in the house. This was not my doing but I had to live with it. I wanted him to live with me but she refused out of spite and profit at times. Yet I do not think this to be the case in all situations I am sure there are plenty of women who would have loved to have had a Baby's Daddy who wanted to take their child and raise it, but it just wasn't possible.
To put is plain and simple My Queen you are beautiful and any man in his right mind once he gets around the initial fear would love to stand by your side and even place you on a pedestal. So just take it from me no matter what you may think there are still Black Men who love their Black women.
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